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Sunday, August 18, 2013

Discussion: Do Weaves Equate to Self Esteem Issues?

As many natural haired women I see nowadays, I still see just as many women with weaves.  Whichever category you fall into, your hair choice shouldn't be up for discussion.  As a woman, I love change.  The variety of hair choices and styles are what makes us unique.  Whether it's a new hairstyle, change of color, or adding length.  Yet, Pastor Aamir has issues with weaves in the church and I have to say that some of his points are valid.

Pastor Aamir feels that 'black women are getting weaves trying to be something and someone they are not' and that there's an underlying "self-esteem" issue.  When I think about it, I feel the standard of beauty has been that of long, straight hair that many are starting to reject once again.  I'm seeing more women in commercials with natural hair as companies are seeing the change as well.

When I think of the women who wear weaves, I know they all do it for different reasons.  It's not always a self-esteem issue or that they don't love themselves.  Some want to protect their hair from constant manipulation, others don't have enough time, or they want a change.  Being natural, I know the importance of timing when I set out to do my hair.  Timing is everything.

There's a deeper issue for the pastor.  He 'lead[s] a church where...members are struggling financially...Yet, a 26 year old mother...has a $300 weave on her head'.  The pastor comes from a place of concern.  He worries that his members don't have their priorities in order.  That they're more concerned with their appearance than what's 'IN their heads'.  

So, I'd like to hear from you.  What do you think of Pastor Aamir's viewpoints?  Does wearing a weave equate to someone with low self esteem?  Leave your comments below.


  1. This is one of my favorite topics; i'm not for or against weave, i'm neutral on this topic. Weaves are wonderful only when done RIGHT. I will not condone a "ratchet weave".you know, the ones wit all da tracks showing, or the one with shiny plastic hair... Weaves are ok as long as you have the MONEY, TIME, and your hair underneath is healthy. The problem arises when women refuse to pay their house rent or bills just to get a weave. Are you really that bald headed that you can't wear ur real hair for the time being?

  2. Lol I can't stand when the tracks are showing. I love your points. Many just feel they have an image to uphold.


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